Staying Positive

Sometimes things happen that can cause turmoil on your emotions. Change can be different for everyone, no matter how big or how small that change might be it can really get some people down. As I mentioned in My Sunday Synopsis - Ellis started working last Friday. It's a big change for me because Ellis is literally my best friend and my boyfriend, we'd usually be at each others house all week. We now can no longer see each other everyday because he has to leave his house at 8 in the morning and doesn't get home until 7 in the evening, sometimes later. I know I seem dramatic but it's something that's been a struggle for me. I know I'm not the only one who needs some tips on how to stay positive so I thought I'd share some ways I'm trying to keep a smile on my face. 

  • Read a book. I would recommend something that inspires you. I'm currently reading #Girlboss by Sophia Amoruso and each time I close it after a good reading session I always feel like I can actually be successful one day. 
  • Read some blogs. My favourite (new) past time is to read inspirational or motivational blogs. Some of my favourites recently have been A Little Opulent, Hazel Jane, Stardust, Jenny Purr, Ember & March. I love their style of writing, the content they produce and their calming personality. Some of these also give tips on how to better your blog which is something I am always trying to get better at! 
  • Talk. Find somebody new to talk to or talk to somebody that makes you feel better but you may not have spoken to a lot. I love speaking to my parents. I love letting my heart out to my mum on a Friday night when I see her, telling her my troubles or my achievements makes me feel so much better. I seem to be talking to my dad a lot more, I like sharing my plans and my thoughts or just news in general. He does the same. 
  • Write. If you're a blogger then this one may be good for you. When I'm down I tend to write more blog posts because it gives me a chance to let everything out or just occupy myself for a while. This post is being written because I am down and I want to share with you how I'm trying to get myself away from that. 
  • Visit someone who makes you smile. Usually this person would be Ellis but as I can't see him I tend to go and visit my nephew and nieces. I love them all so much and their entire existence makes me so much more happier. These three rely on me for happiness which is something that not many people do so it's nice and different.
  • Bath. One of my favourite things to do is have a lovely, long, luxurious bath featuring most probably the Mmmelting Marshmellow Moment Lush Beth Melt or pretty much anything from Lush. Nice smells calm me - I'm definitely a fan of citrus smells as I've learnt over the past year. I tend to sit in the bath with maybe some calm music or just silence. I just love to think about things in the bath and I generally come out of it feeling motivated to do something. 
  • Shopping. When I have some money (not very often), retail therapy is definitely a pick-me-up. Even if it's just going food shopping at Tesco with my dad or buying other people presents. This definitely does affect my mood positively. 
  • Think. Sometimes the best thing to do in a bad situation is just think about it. List the pros about it. For example, Ellis working means he's earning money, he's going to be able to save for his car so we can go on road trips and he can come and see me more often, his confidence is going to grow, we're going to appreciate the time we do spend together and argue less, we're going to be able to afford to go on more dates instead of just spending the day cooped up inside, we're going to be able to start saving to go on holidays. The only negative really is seeing/speaking to him less but that is easily over-ridden by the positives I just listed. 
  • Drink something warm. A lot of the time the best thing to make you feel better is a warm drink. At the moment I'm loving Earl Gray (with milk and two brown sugars because I'm slightly deranged). With all the spare time to myself I'm wanting to explore more types of tea. 
  • Keep yourself busy. Make sure you're doing something. It's no fun just lying around doing absolutely nothing with yourself - well it is on some occasions when it's the time of the month and you just want to lie down with a hot water bottle - but other than that you should get off your backside and do something you enjoy. Or if you love blogging or something computer-related then sit back down because that's definitely going to keep you busy too. 
  • Do something different. I definitely would recommend taking any spare time you have to do something different. If you're invited to do something say YES. Unless it's something you really don't want to do then nobody can force you. I've started speaking on blogger chats and I'm loving it - bloggers are such lovely people and you will probably relate to them pretty well. 
Have you got any tips on how to stay positive? I would love to find out some more! 

Lots of Love
Jen xo


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